Love Is Blind But the Lover Shouldn't Be - The Very Language Which Never Seizes to End

By Funom Makama

The topic of Love can never seize to end in terms of practical reality and human reasoning. Experiences of heart break and subsequent consequence of fear have made a lot of people say a lot of things about Love. What is love actually and why do people fall in it?

First of all, Love itself is true. There is nothing like true love. We often have this misconception and when we are deeply in it, we consider it true love. Does that mean there is false love? Love itself is love and anything above or below or beyond it is not love. It is pure and independent on its on and whoever is experiencing it is experiencing Love.

We often mistake love and the lover. A girl who was sobbing in the subway was approached by a young man to be consoled. She turned her very wet angered face towards the man as she screams "You men are heartless, I will never fall in love again!". This caught so many passengers' attention and then she walked away. Really! You will never fall in love again? And can you tell us why? Is it because your lovers have been hurting you or because love itself is mean to you? Most girls due to bad experiences proclaim celibacy out of frustration. You can never be a nun overnight and celibacy is a natural phenomenon which you have to be born with and not just acquired instantly in a moment. Why blame it on love? Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud or rude. Love isn't selfish or quick tempered. It doesn't keep record of wrongs that others do, it rejoices in truth, but not in evil, it is always supportive, loyal, hopeful and trusting and Love never fails. Is this what someone will proclaim not to experience?

A lover may exhibit jealousy, pride or selfishness, but that doesn't mean its a criteria of him loving you. Its just simply his human cons. When we end up with the wrong partner, maybe due to our carelessness or insensitivity to both sides of the person, we blame it on Love. No my friends, Love is blind and this is very true. What does it mean? It means love has no boundaries in race, color, height, social class, taste, and any other physical features. That is to say, a cobbler can marry a bank manager, a Hispanic can marry an African, a woman of 183cm in height can madly be in love with a man who is just 164cm; and a person who is seen as the weirdest, most unattractive could be as well cherished, worshiped and adored by another individual. Love is truly blind, but does it just end there? Absolutely No! The lover shouldn't be. What does this mean? In as much as you can love anybody from any race, color or other features which may not be parallel to yours, you still need to be careful, watchful and alert is loving someone who is very compatible to you. You have the right to know what you want and who can suite you best, then fall in love with such a person. You do not rush love and end up with the wrong person then finally blame it on Love again-that is absurd. remember, Love is patient and you just have to be as you grow stronger in it. You cannot know an individual for 3 months and conclude on marrying them.What exactly do you think you know about the person? Or do you think you are so engrossed in love that it is simply enough for you to spend your life with such a person?

An accountant, due to how tedious his job was vowed not to marry another accountant. There was a particular lady in his working place he has been avoiding. He tried all he could with other ladies and things did not just work out. After like 4 years of trials upon trials, he finally came to terms with the fact that he likes the lady but just avoiding her. He got to know her and they became the best couples ever. He used his job as a yardstick of love (which is wrong) and he was lucky enough to still come back and meet her available for him. A lady once said, she loves basket ballers and all she wants is to date and marry one. She was fortunate to date about 4 of them within the space of 8 months and it was horrible for her. The same thing she detested (pride) was the major characteristics of all the Basket ballers she knew. Finally, she came to terms with the fact that most of them are not really what she thought character-wise, finally, she fell in love with someone who was 5cm shorter than she is and not an athletic person in anyway.

We lust after some category of people and misconstrue this with love. Lust is totally different and it is something that is temporary. If we find out that we have this sudden passion and attraction for a certain category of persons due to some physical quality, then we should check-mate such desires. In most cases it is the wrong desire which may be taken to be love. You cannot be rigid to the specification of whom you will love. This is what is informally called "poppy love" or "high school love". 'The guy must be tall, huge, very athletic, strong, from a Jewish home' etc. And the funniest thing is sometimes we carry too many specifications for one person that such a person do not even exist in the world. You cannot channel love to whomever you want, it is a natural feeling which just comes and you feel it for a person after a while of attraction. Poppy love is very dangerous and it is so ridiculous to see some Adults doing this. Love is not about been pretty, or been rich, or been spiritual or been honest. Yes, these may be added qualities of attraction, but it takes two to love and if two halves come together to form wholeness, there must be cohesion and a perfect fitting for them to blend. Don't you think?

Finally, you are urged to leave your heart open to whoever it may finally love, nevertheless do not be blind in choosing who is more compatible to you because if you get hurt, its definitely not the fault of Love but the lover (either one of them or both of them). Make things right and do what is necessary to compliment this wonderful, God giving gift called Love. It is actually blind, but you the lover should never be!

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Im Still In Love With My Ex

Im Still In Love With My Ex!

 By Jon Gallas

If you find yourself saying, “I'm still in love with my ex” you aren't alone. There are many who find themselves at the end of a long term romance or marriage still clinging to hope that they might bring it back. Just because it seems like things are darkest and that there is no hope doesn't mean that there isn't any. There is still a chance that what you had can come back even stronger. When you are saying “I'm still in love with my ex” and you want to get that love back it is going to have to come back stronger if it is going to last.

For those of you saying, “I'm still in love with my ex” you may have a desire to turn back the clock and bring back what was lost. Be careful what you ask for, you might just get it and have the same results.

Look carefully at the mistakes that was made in the past and find out not only why they were made, but why they were able to have the impact on your relationship they did. You need to be able to make a stronger foundation than you had before. You are going to have to try and start from ground zero. To get back together with the one you love, you are going to have to try and start all over again. Just find a way to do it better. Tell yourself, "I'm still in love with my ex, but I want it to be better than before."

Try re-establishing a friendship. Take it slow. If your ex feels like you are trying to make things like they were, they may be resistant to it. Don't push things, just let things take their course. If the two of you are supposed to be together, it will happen. Just let it happen naturally.

Think positively about it. Don't let your ex see you crying or depressed about it. You want to try and make it look like you are a joy to come back to. If your ex sees that you are walking around depressed, they may decide that they don't want to have that in their lives. If they see that for you life has gone on and you are happy they may want to join you in your happiness.

Try to think of what type of person you would like to be with. Do you think that they would want to be with that type of person as well? People want to be with happy people who can brighten their day and make them smile. People want to be with someone who makes them feel that they have a purpose and that they aren't alone. Try to be someone that makes someone feel like that. Make your ex feel special by just being an encouraging friend.

If you make yourself valuable to your ex and are able to make them feel valuable you may have a chance to bring back lost love. You may also be making a foundation that will last forever. It is a good thing to say “I'm still in love with my ex.” It is an even better thing to try and make the foundation of that love stronger.

Starting Over Win Your Love Back

Starting Over Win Your Love Back!

By Jon Gallas

Win your love back. It slipped away before you had a chance to realize what was happening. It seems like everything happened so quickly, like a tornado that came out of nowhere and destroyed everything that the two of you had worked so hard at building. The results were devastating. Now you are left walking through the rubble trying to find out if there is anything worth saving. To win your love back is going to be a huge challenge.

To try and win your love back, first look to see if there is anything able to be salvaged.  Look through all that remains, take a hard look at everything and see the damage that was done. It could be that the damage due to the break up was too much and there really isn’t anything left to save. Hopefully, this is not the case but, unfortunately, it is true many times.

Also take a critical look at everything and see if trying to win your love back is even something that you want to even try and do. Winning your love back is going to be hard work and you just went through an exhausting time in your life.

Does it make sense to try and put these pieces of the failed romance and/or marriage back together? Will you just be banging your head against the wall? Do they even want to try and work with you or even want to win your love back? Ask yourself these hard questions. It could save you a lot of added and unnecessary grief.

Now, once you have decided that it is worth it to try and win your love back, clean up. Get rid of all the things that cluttered up your life and made it difficult. This is a great chance to go in and take only what was good about your love and leave behind the bad stuff. If there was something that complicated things between the two of you, leave it behind. You really need to focus your energy on building on the more solid foundations of your love.

What was it that made your love special? What were the best things about your love? What was it that made it special and really makes you want to win your love back? Focus on these things and use them as the cornerstone and foundation of winning your love back.

One mistake that many make when they want to rebuild a relationship is that they try and rebuild it exactly the way it was before it started falling apart. The truth is, if it wasn’t strong enough to withstand the storms that came the first time, it won’t be strong the next time. Try to build it better than it was before. Don’t live in the past, build on the good things and leave behind the things that made what you have weak enough to be destroyed. Win your love back and make it stronger than ever before.

Valentine's Day Romance

Valentine's Day Love!

By Lulie Swanepoel

Love is one of the strongest emotions in the human experience. This strong feeling for another person is often hard to describe and difficult to express, but there are certain occasions, Valentine's Day in particular, when displays of affection are called for.

Couples around the world celebrate Valentine's Day, also known as St. Valentine's Day, each year on the 14th of February. This romantic occasion and celebration of love gives people the opportunity to show their feelings of love and affection for one another. Couples aside, this celebration of romance is also the one day where secret admirers and singletons can make their affections known to an unsuspecting beloved.

As a symbol of one's affection, sending flowers, gifts or a card has become part of the Valentine's Day tradition, which in itself has a rather mysterious romantic history as one would expect.

The history of St. Valentine
There are numerous legends as to who Saint Valentine was and why we celebrate Valentine's Day. Today St. Valentine's Day contains remnants of both Roman and Christian traditions and only three of the saints connected to Valentine's Day are recognised by the Catholic Church. All of these men were known as Valentine or Valentinus and were martyred.

The one legend tells of a priest known as Valentine who served during Emperor Claudius II's rule in Rome during the third century. Claudius who was building his army of soldiers banned marriage as he felt that single men made for better soldiers. Valentine recognised the unfairness of this and continued marrying young lovers in secret. When Claudius became aware of this he ordered that the priest be put to death.

Through the ages Valentine's Day evolved. The acknowledgement of the first St. Valentine's message belongs to a young Frenchman, the Duke of Orleans, who desperately longed for his wife while being incarcerated in the Tower of London during the 15th Century. Today sixty of the romantic notes written to his wife are displayed in the British Museum.

Over two hundred years later flowers became fashionable when the daughter of King Henry IV of France threw a party honouring St. Valentine. All the men who attended were asked to bring a bouquet of flowers to give to the woman they have chosen to bring as a Valentine companion.

Be my Valentine
Today the red rose is regarded as the ultimate symbol of Valentine's Day. The rose evokes feelings of passion that not even Venus, the goddess of love could resist, declaring it her favourite flower.

Florists around the world acknowledge that the ideal Valentine's gift is a bouquet of red roses adorned with the Baby's Breath flower.

However, giving red roses to show your admiration is not set in stone. There are a wide variety of flowers you can consider including orchids, lilies, tulips and of course roses of another colour. A mixture of flowers beautifully designed and styled or a tailor-made bouquet that would reflect your partner's taste would be perfect!

Another Valentine's Day favourite is of course chocolates. The ideal Valentine's Day gift would then surely be a beautiful bouquet of flowers with a box of chocolates but for a promise of things to come, delivered at your loved one's door step by your florist with a bottle of champagne, often referred to as the lover's drink.

Ultimately, after centuries of romance, the way to your loved one's heart is still with well sought-out Valentine's Day flowers and a gift to show your feelings of love and devotion on this happy day.

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Falling in Love this Valentine's Day

mathematics of  love!

By Paul Selibio

It is Valentine's Day again! Aside from anniversaries and birthdays, Valentine's Day is a special occasion when you think of thoughtful ideas of expressing love to your partner. You always want to make sure that your partner deserves the best. And as early as possible, you want to get ready and plan for the perfect way of surprising your loved one.

Everyone wants to be loved and wants to express this in symbolic ways. Who can argue with that? And just as the credit card bills and other finances from the Christmas holidays are just about half settled, it's another time of the year when you could not help but spend more for your partner. And so worries pile up during the love month.

But since Valentine's Day come so soon after Christmas, here are some tips of how to handle your financial worries during this time.

1.Look for Cheap Valentine Ideas

Even if your gift may not be that expensive, what matters is how that gift can touch and bring joy to the heart. There are other ways that you can consider as gifts to your partner during Valentine, if you are on a limited budget. Here are some:

-Why not take a day leave and do the household chores for your wife? You will save her a day off during the weekend from all these house stuffs. This will be your cheap and unique way of giving her the gift of free time.

-Instead of having dinner in a restaurant, work your way to the kitchen and take charge. You can even bake your own Valentine cake. Set the mood in the table with a candlelit dinner and a bottle of champagne.

-Make personalized gifts. You can craft your own Valentine card. Bring out that artistic talent and do your own Valentine projects.

-Though the Christmas holidays comes first before February, you can think ahead and save for a Valentine gift. You can even buy one under a good Christmas deal and save some few bucks for a Valentine dinner.

-You can also save a little of that bonus for this occasion. You just need to anticipate all these expenses so that you would not end up messing up with your budget.

2.Scout for Other Sources of Budget

Who would not want to give expensive gifts especially for the special someone in your life? This is just once a year when love is the prime reason in celebrating this special holiday. And as much as we want to avoid problems with our budget, there are times that we just fall short for these expenses. Yes, it is true that it all boils down to the sincere thought of giving. But going on an extra mile with your effort of giving nothing but the best would not hurt.

There are other ways of getting enough funds so that you can celebrate a perfect Valentine's Day with your loved one. You need not worry about the money needed to help you with the numerous creative ways you may have thought of spending the love month. You can apply for a loan to have enough funds for the Valentine's Day.

There is no other easiest way of getting your loan approved than payday loans. With shorter processing period and lesser requirements, this will surely help you meet the expenses for the Valentine. And since credit rating does not matter with the approval of your payday loan, you don't even need to worry about the possible problems left by the Christmas shopping on your finances.

If you want a bigger amount, you can apply for other personal loans. This can cover whatever expenses you have other than the Valentine spending. You can even resort to giving your partner her greatest wish that you may have failed to give during the holidays. What about a romantic vacation? Apply for a loan and surprise her this Valentine's Day. There is no excuse for giving what is best during the Valentine's Day. Valentine is the perfect time to fall in love over and over again without worrying about falling short of your budget.

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Free Valentine Ecard and Free Valentine Ecards

By Christian N

A free valentine ecard is an incredibly romantic way to let your loved one know how you feel about her. Free valentine ecards can be anything from sentimental to funny depending on how you want your loved one to respond to you card. A free valentine ecard is a great add on gift for Valentine's Day. It is a way to let your significant other know that you truly love them. Free valentine ecards can be used in many different ways and for several purposes. It all depends on which purpose works best for you.

First of all, a free valentine ecard can be used for the obvious; to wish them a happy Valentine's Day. It is fun to send the one you love a free valentine ecard so that they can receive something extra from you at work or at school. Free valentine ecards are available for the purpose of encouragement and love. They are available all year round but there are more free valentine ecards during the actual holiday than any other day of the year. This works well also because it is the time when you most want to send cards to celebrate Valentines Day.

Another way you can use a free valentine ecard is to do something special such as purposing. Now this is a really tricky thing to do with a free valentine ecard. Before you decide to purpose this way, make sure that this is something that your future fiance would appreciate. If they would much more prefer the traditional method, then save the free valentine ecards for a different occasion. But if you do use the free valentine ecards to purpose, then make sure that you find the perfect one for your future spouse. Pick out all of their favorite colors and write a romantic statement on the card.

Finally, realize that free valentine ecards are about love. True love comes from the Lord and cannot be represented from any free valentine ecard. It must come straight from the heart. The Lord is love so let him teach you what true love is and all the tools that come along with loving each other as much as you love him. "Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God, and everyone that loveth is born of God and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God for God is love." (1 John 4:7-8)

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10 Valentine Gifts Women Love

10 Valentine Gifts Women Love!

By William Smith

Finding the perfect Valentine gift for the woman in your life can be a daunting task.  To help you out, we've searched the internet to find our top 10 picks for Valentine's Day.  From flowers to jewelry to a romantic weekend at a bed & breakfast, you can simply surf the internet to buy or find all the information you need to make this a perfect Valentine's Day for the woman you love.

1)  Fresh Flowers - Flowers are still the most popular gift at Valentine's Day.  Of course, it is also the most expensive time of the year to buy flowers, particularly roses.  Still, flowers remain a classic option and one that is always well received.  Try a local florist for guaranteed delivery, or one of the many online retailers if you will be apart this Valentine's Day.

2)  Chocolate - Chocolate is a close second to flowers, and for good reason.  Many women crave chocolate, and Godiva (  rel=nofollow http://www.godiva.com) is the ultimate indulgence.  When in doubt, buy a variety chocolate gift pack that will allow her to sample a different treat each time.  She'll enjoy the mystery of what's inside each tasty treat, and be dreaming about the next one.

3)  Perfume - Think of perfume as "flowers in a bottle."  A pleasing smell is a powerful aphrodisiac, and a carefully selected scent will make her feel special.  Perfume is also nice because the gift lives on for several months, and she'll think of you each time she sprays on your wonderful gift.  Ask your female friends what scents are popular this year, or sneak a peek in her magazines to see what perfumes are being advertised.

4)  Spa/Massage Gift Certificate - For a truly memorable experience, give her a trip to the spa.  Woman love to feel pampered and a massage or spa treatment is a Valentine gift that will relax and elevate her mood.

5)  Romantic Dinner At Home - If your wife or girlfriend normally does all the cooking, surprise her with a home-cooked meal.  If you're new to the kitchen, don't try anything too ambitious.  Pick some of her favorite foods and find some easy recipes to make.  Don't worry if your meal isn't perfect, because for this gift the old adage, "it's the thought that counts," is definitely true.

6)  Jewelry - Women love jewelry, especially when it's received as a gift on a special occasion.  Price is always a factor, but also consider getting something personal (e.g., a dolphin pendant for the ocean lover) or personalized (with your names and date) to make sure this Valentine gift is unforgettable.

7)  Teddy Bear (  rel=nofollow http://www.vermonteddybear.com) - Nothing says cute and cuddly like a teddy bear.  The teddy bear has changed a lot since you had one as a kid.  Now, there are many different styles, varieties, and colors.  Find one just right and she'll thank you for your thoughtfulness.

8)  Bouquet Of Heart Shaped Cookies (  rel=nofollow http://www.gourmet-cookie-bouquets.com) - Cookies are always a "sweet" gift, and heart-shaped gourmet cookies make a great Valentine gift.  Personalize the cookies with your own special message to let her know how you feel.

9)  Chocolate Covered Strawberries (  rel=nofollow http://www.aagiftsandbaskets.com) - Strawberries are the perfect Valentine's Day fruit - red, heart-shaped and sweet.  We already know how women feel about chocolate, so combine the two and you've got an unforgettable Valentine's Day gift.  Chocolate covered strawberries are normally shipped via overnight air for maximum freshness, so these delectable treats also make a great gift for the procrastinator.

10)  Romantic Weekend Get-Away - Nothing rekindles romance like a little time away from it all with your Valentine.  For a truly romantic weekend, try a bed-and-breakfast someplace special (  rel=nofollow http://www.bnbfinder.com to find a bed & breakfast).  Many bed and breakfasts offer Valentine's Day or romance packages, so it's best to reserve this date far in advance.  If you can't get away during Valentine's Day, you can always make the reservation by February 14 and give her a special card telling her about your future romantic escape.

Valentine's Day gifts can be difficult, but with a little planning and insight in your wife or girlfriend's preferences, you can find her a memorable gift this year.  You could even chose a different Valentine gift from this list and be covered for the next 10 years!

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